Monday, December 22, 2008

Halfway There

Well, I hit the 20 week milestone this week signifying that I'm halfway through this pregnancy. Actually, since I will have a scheduled C-Section this time a couple of weeks early, that puts me well past the halfway point.

I'm starting to feel the baby move a little. Caleb and Corban were both very active by 20 weeks, so of course I think something is wrong when I barely feel anything by this point in this pregnancy. Nothing appears to be wrong, I just don't have the peaceful, easy feeling I had with the other two.

We still don't know what we are having. I could write several blog posts on the OB/GYN care in a small town, but I will try to keep my bitterness to myself and highlight a few minor points. First thing about it is that there is one, yes one, place that sees pregnant women in this town. There are three women doctors who alternate seeing patients and whichever one of them is on call is the one who delivers your baby, or sees you at your appointment, or whatever. So there is no consistent care.

Second, they disagree among themselves. I went to the ER yesterday because I was so sore I could hardly walk. The doctor on call at the time said it was an infection and sent me home with an antibiotic. At my follow up appointment this morning with a different doctor, she told me "they send everyone home with an antibiotic. Stop taking it." So I ask, "Is there another reason that I am so sore then?" and she answers very sarcastically, "Well, you have been pregnant three times in a very short period of time, what do you expect?"

Does anyone else see how this can be frustrating? I mean I go to the doctor for care, not lectures, and I expect some sign that whatever doctor that is assigned to me for that particular moment has some sort of experience and expertise in the area. Not conflicting opinions by colleagues. None of the three doctors are known for a good, or even moderate bedside manner. In fact, from my experiences, they've been quite rude.

But, there is no one else to go to, so what's a girl to do? Nate and I are seriously praying about switching over to the care in Lawton. The only downside is that it's an hour away for appointments and when it comes time to deliver, it just makes it that much harder to be an hour away from home and the boys.

On the upside, next Tuesday, the 30th, we finally find out what we are having. I'm still leaning towards a boy, but I've been wrong before. In fact, I was wrong both times. I thought both of these active boys were girls. Third times the charm. Either to be right, or to have a girl. Either way, I win.

I'm starting to freak out at the fact that in four months I will have three under three! There is so much that needs to happen before then. Nate and I have all sorts of plans and resolutions starting at the New Year to get this household ready for a baby in an orderly and peaceful fashion. I'll keep you posted as to how this actually turns out.


tiff said...

That must be incredibly frustrating!! I am really frustrated for you. I can't wait to find out what you are having!

Annie Pennington said...

Gosh and to think I was dreading having to go to an OBGYN in Germany - but come to find out, care stateside is actually the real pain! I can't even imagine how frustrated you must be! :(

I really get the vibe this time you're having a girl, that's what I voted for!

MERRY CHRISTMAS! Hope you feel all better very soon!

Erin said...

I'm so excited to find out if it's a boy or girl! You make the cutest boys so that would be fun, even though you'd be incredibly outnumbered! I'm a terrible guesser so I just voted for a girl since that would be something new for you and Nate. Hope the care in Altus gets better for you!

Erin said...

Switch to Lawton! You deserve someone who CARES and gives you their full attention...and knows what they're talking about!

Happy (early) Birthday, friend! I love you!

Sandy said...

I am so sorry to heat about the OB/GYN doc in Altus- that sucks! I think you should switch to Lawton too- the docs probably suck b/c they're overloaded with patients! I'm excited for your US and can't wait to see him/her!!

Amy said...

It's a girl!